Need Advice??

I hate those moments when you start thinking about nothing in particular when all of a sudden, you have a great idea. So you continue to think of this idea and build on it, making it better and better the more you think of it. But when you go to write it down or want to tell someone else about it, you completely forget what the idea is! That's kind of how I've been feeling when trying to write a post. I think of something and realise hey, that is such a great idea to write about, but as soon as I sit down in front of my computer, I immediately forget what it is. However, this time, I have managed to remember what it is I want to discuss.

Actually, I have a few and I would like to start with double standards. A few people I know don't let people touch their phone, Facebook or their computer (it depends on the person). These people get up people who touch then without asking, which is fine because they want their personal space. However, a small number of these people get upset when someone doesn't let them touch their phone/Facebook/computer and yell at them for it. My question for these people is why are you allowed to touch their stuff, but they can't touch yours? I mean, you don't trust people to touch your stuff but you expect people to trust you to with their stuff? I have a message....it doesn't work that way! Trust goes both ways, if you trust them, they will start to trust you! Ways to deal with this is hard for the people who have the double-standard, because it is really hard to trust people. But for those who are victims of these things, its easy. Put a lock or password on your phone that only you know, add a password or change the password for your computer and, change the password for your Facebook or if they don't already know it, never stay logged in when they are around. If they start to trust you to use their phone or whatever, even if they unlock or log in for you, show them the same level of trust. And don't do this alone. Tell the person to do the same! Then, they wont feel like you are excluding them from your life, they will feel like they are working with you to build trust with you.

Another problem I have is when people talk badly about other people behind their backs. I have to admit, I do it sometimes. I can't say that I don't ever do it, in fact, no one can really! Even if you think that what you are saying isn't bad, someone else might perceive it as such. I prefer to take a direct approach most of the time, by telling the person directly what I don't like about them or when I don't like what someone has done. But there are some people who do it all the time, and about everyone they know! And not just to one person, but to many people who might be friends with the person you are talking about. I have something to tell you. One day, you may not have any friends! Why? Because your friends started to wonder, if you talk that way about their other friends to them, what do you say about them to those other friends? Perhaps a better approach, which I have often used myself that really helps is to write down what you want to say about the person, what you dislike about them and burn it, or tear it to pieces and throw the pieces in the bin or flush them down the toilet. It'll work out better because people talk, and eventually, everything you say will reach the ears of the person you were talking about! Find other ways to let out your frustrations about people and maybe Facebook isn't the best way to do it, because the person may know or suspect it is about them. Even if all you are doing is writing their name on a piece of paper, taping it to a punching bag and beating the crap of it, it's more fulfilling than bitching. Unless you are on a reality TV show....always chose the option with the highest drama. But, since I'm neither, I'm going to stick with my punching bag and letter burning tactics or telling them calmly and more importantly in person.

So remember, if you know anyone with double standards, have double standards or if you are susceptible to constant bitching, these are only a small amount of things you could do to deal with the problem. There are so many more out there that you can constantly learn from! There is a never ending stream of advice on a various number of situations. I know that I haven't even tapped the surface in all the advice that I have read about certain situations and chances are, I will never learn it all. However, it has helped me a lot! Why not let it help you? Just take a look and I guarantee you, there is a never-ending stream of advice for whatever problem you are facing.